Warning: Might have some language you find not appropriate for kids. I disagree, but there it is.
In light of the recent ruling by SCOTUS, I felt I should say something about bisexuals. Many people in recent years have come to accept that some people are just born gay or as the wrong sex (trans.) What is still incredibly hard for many to understand, are bisexuals. I am bisexual, I just happened to fall in love with and marry a male. What I was told when I was in Highschool was that if I liked both sexes, why would I choose to date people of the same sex, because it only makes my life more complicated.
To answer this, I have a two questions. Firstly, when you see someone and you get that little flutter in your stomach that means you like them, did you choose to like them? No, you just do. True I could ignore that, but that seems a bit silly.
Second question, which I find to be an important one: Is sex the most important part of your relationship? Is that really what your relationship is based on? Bisexuals (at least me, I think it's most) look for all the same things you most likely do in a relationship. Trust, caring, being there for each other, etc. We are just not so hung up on needing to have a certain kind of sexual pleasure. You figure things out and make each other happy with the parts that are there. Simple.
As one of my friends said a long time ago, "People fall in love with personalities not genders." If George was a female, the only thing that would change is that we would need a sperm donor to have kids. Well and a few personal bedroom things would be different, but my feelings would be the same.
Think about it this way. Some people like vanilla ice cream, and some like chocolate. If a person likes both equally well, would you tell them they should only ever eat vanilla because it is more simple to make? I like both, and would be happy only eating one, but sometimes both are not available, or one happens to be more appealing in that brand. How is that difficult to comprehend?
Another example- If a boy likes girls, and does not care about their skin color, would you tell him he should limit himself to only the type society might approve of more? That sounds ridiculous, and so does hating on bisexuals.
Importantly, bisexual does not mean sleeping around or needing to cheat on your partner to get both flavors all the time. I am sure there are some that do that, but that is true of all types of people.
Rachael
